Yesterday, I was having a total bummer of a day. Nothing was going right. I. was. so. frustrated. I ugly-cried. (You know what I mean.) And you know who wasn't helping me out?
Me.
When I start saying to myself, "This is so frustrating. I can't do anything right. What is my problem!?" I rephrase it to sound like someone else is saying it to me. Like this:
"You are so frustrating. You can't do anything right. What is your problem!?"
Yikes.
I wouldn't let someone else say that to me... so why do I say it to myself? Am-I-right? Rephrasing my negative self-talk helps me see how mean I really am being to myself, and gives me a chance to look at the issue realistically. It gives me the chance to say, "Yes, sometimes situations don't go my way and they are frustrating, but I do many things right every day, and some situations are out of my control. There's no use beating myself up about them." Yay! So much better, right?
I hope you found some encouragement in this!
Wow...how did you get inside my head? Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteYou are very wise. I think we are all guilty of doing this from time to time. This is a good way to see the situation from another point of view - if only we can recognize what we are doing and remember your helpful tip!
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